Are you wondering how to attract women? Are you ready for a relationship but unable to interact with girls? Does picking up women terrify you? Is seducing women like a foreign language? Keep reading and you’ll be surprised to learn just how easy it is to get that beautiful woman to say yes to a date.
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How to Attract Women with Body Language
Communication is the single most important factor when trying to attract a woman. Body language makes up 90% of that communication. Women are great at picking up subconscious signals – even ones we don’t know we’re sending! Thankfully, body language is easy to modify and the results are immediate: people will feel more comfortable approaching you and your confidence will go up.
First of all, be aware of your posture. Above all, women want a man who is confident. Show your confidence by walking with your head tilted slightly up, your back straight, and your shoulders thrown back. Imagine how different this looks than walking with your hands in your pockets and your head down. If you have a drink in your hand, don’t hold it in front of your chest (this closes you off); instead, hold the drink down by your side.
When you sit down, relax. Take up as much space as possible. Crossing your arms and/or legs and leaning forward makes you look unapproachable or shy. Instead, let your arms hang by your sides and lean back. If possible, spread your legs out. Taking up space sends out territorial signals. The man taking up the most space is interpreted as the alpha male. Women are programmed to seek out the alpha male. When speaking with a woman, stand with your feet shoulder width apart and expose your palms.
When you start to speak, stay calm. Showing too much emotion makes a woman think that you are not in control of the situation. Be aware of your tonality. Don’t speak too quickly. Finally, think about the way you move. Confident men use controlled motions. Do not fidget or touch your face.
When you address a woman, make eye contact with her. This indicates power, confidence, trustworthiness, emotional stability, and intelligence. Inability to make eye contact, on the other hand, indicates submission and fragility. It’s okay to occasionally break eye contact, but make sure to do it while she is speaking, not when you are speaking. When you do look away, look to the side, not down.
During a conversation, look into a woman’s left eye. The left eye is associated with the creative/conceptual side of the brain. If you speak to the right eye, which is associated with the logical side of the brain, she might put up more of a wall when you try to make your move.
Desirable Traits Women are Attracted to
If you weren’t blessed with Aquarian good looks, don’t worry. Women are attracted to personality even more than physique. You can make up for a lack of good looks with a great personality. The single most important thing you can do around a woman is to be yourself. However, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t better yourself to be more attractive to women! Following is a list of the top 5 traits by category that women desire in a man.
- Moral Integrity
- Sense of humor
- Good in bed
- Earning potential
Although non-physical traits are often more important, there are of course physical traits women desire. Women love a symmetrical face, large eyes, high cheekbones, and broad chins. You can improve the look of your face by smiling and keeping your facial hair neat.
Women actually rated sense of style higher than good looks. Don’t dress like a slob. Take pride in your appearance and practice good hygiene. In general, women like their man to be taller than they are, but a short man can make up for this by making his woman feel safe, small, and warm. Finally, women like a challenge. Don’t pick up the phone every time she calls and don’t always be available. Make her wait a little
Where are the Best Places to Meet Women?
You can work on perfecting your game all you want, but it won’t do you any good if you don’t know where to find beautiful women. Finding the perfect girl isn’t just about frequenting bars and coffee shops. Have you considered taking a dance class? Dancing is a great opportunity to meet new people while learning something new and showing off your confidence. Plus, the instructor will pair you up so you won’t have to worry about choosing a partner. A classy event like a wine tasting is a great place to meet high-caliber women interested in conversation. If you don’t know anything about wine, it might be a good idea to do a little research first!
If you have a dog, a dog park could be the very best place to meet a girl. You can tell a lot about someone by the type of dog she has. And with the two dogs interacting, the conversation starts itself. With our current technology, meeting people is easier than ever. Join a Meetup.com group and you’ll meet women that share similar interests. Because you’re in a group, you know she’ll be there the entire night.
If your town has an art district, attend an art walk. Art galleries can become the most popular spot in town with bars and DJs. Women wander around casually and just as the event comes to a close, the city’s night life amps up – this is a great opportunity to ask her out to a bar or club.
If you’re up for it, attend an acting class. The atmosphere is perfect for flirting and creating relationships. Gyms are not a good place to flirt because women may assume that’s the only reason you’re there. Instead, attend a fitness class like yoga or CrossFit. The same people attend each week, so if you find someone you like, you know she’ll be back. You can use the class as a conversation starter and groups like that often hang out together.
Volunteering is a great way to meet women. You can take advantage of the program’s structure to meet people while feeling comfortable and helping others. Organized trips like bird watching or canoeing are another great way to meet women because you are starting the trip already interested in the same thing. And if it’s something you are experienced with or know a lot about, you’ll be at your best when you meet her.
Of course you aren’t limited to these places. You can meet the perfect woman anywhere – you just have to get out there and look! However, there are certain places that have been ranked as the worst to meet women, including:
- Women’s clothing store
- In line for the bathroom
- Inside the ATM room
- On the street/subway
I’ve already mentioned that communication is everything. When you sit down and speak with a woman you’re interested in, whether it’s to pick her up for a one-night stand or to get a girlfriend, there are some rules to follow. First of all, don’t use pick-up lines. They don’t work. Mentally prepare yourself and don’t fear rejection. It’s very important to introduce yourself. Offering a handshake will show that you are mature. Explain why you are where you are. You can break the ice in a non-threatening way by talking about your surroundings. If you’re a funny guy, start off with some playful banter to make her feel relaxed. Remember to smile.
Next, ask questions – but keep it light. You don’t want to ask her personal questions. Women love to talk about themselves. Consider asking her about her work or where she’s from. Let the conversation flow naturally and talk about yourself only when appropriate. Try to let a little more than 50% of the conversation be about her. Mention things about yourself when you notice common interests. This will lead you to an opportunity to ask her on a date.
How to secure the second date …
Congrats! You’ve scored date number 1. Next, you need to start thinking about how to secure date number 2. People are judgmental. If you mess up one dinner, your entire dating future with this girl could be ruined. Focus on balance. Since the relationship will be equal, start things this way and be yourself. Utilize the conversation tips above and be nice to other people you encounter during the evening. Always pay on the first date and go in for a kiss when the night draws to a close.
A surefire way to blow your first date is to talk about your ex. Never talk about your ex with a current girlfriend!
If she drives herself home, it’s a good idea to text her an hour later to make sure she got home safely, but leave it at that. Wait 2 days before contacting her or you’ll come off as too eager (this is a turn off because it makes you seem desperate).
Picking Up Women & the Art of Seduction
If you’re looking for a one-night stand…start off with something spontaneous. Women like spontaneity. Ask her about herself and really listen to what she says. Pay attention to her body language. Is she confident? Nervous? Playing with her hair or earlobe is a clear sign that she’s interested. If she smiles without showing her teeth or smiles while looking away, she’s bored. If she laughs or gives you a toothy smile, keep up the good work.
You should be able to tell if she’s up for casual sex during the first 15 minutes. Find out if she’s single early in the conversation – but don’t make it obvious. If she has a boyfriend and is loyal to him, she’ll bring it up on her own. You can start off with a compliment, but don’t go overboard. Too many compliments will make you seem creepy. Never lie to a woman. If you’re clear about what you want, she won’t be misled.
Ask her questions that allow her to share emotions (such as “what does this song make you think about?”), listen to what she says, and share your own opinions. Be honest and open with her. Mention something personal about yourself to show her that you have a sweet side.
If the conversation seems to be going well, create sexual tension. Brief, gentle touches can do more than you think. Eye contact and a lingering gaze will ignite a feeling of attraction. Using the words “us” and “we” will make her feel comfortable (for example, “we should watch out for this bartender, he makes really strong drinks).
If you’re trying to pick up a girl at a bar, find a good wingman. He will help keep the conversation flowing. The best wingman isn’t as handsome or funny as you, has your best interests in mind, and knows the appropriate time to leave the conversation. Think about yourself from the woman’s eyes. Commonalities as simple as film and food can provide ideas for future dates.
Finally, don’t leave without getting her phone number or at least her email address. If things seem to be going well, you can suggest you two go somewhere alone. But don’t say things as blunt as “we should get out of here.”
It’s not a bad idea to set up dates with multiple girls before anything gets serious. This way, you’ll get more experience picking up girls, your confidence will be boosted, and you will project an aura of calmness that will make her feel like she has to work to be with you.
Why do Women like Older Guys? What about Dating Older Women?
It’s a well-known fact that women are attracted to older men. Women mature quicker than men and look for a man whose maturity level matches their own. They are often tired of all the drama from dealing with guys of similar age. When a woman looks at an older man, she sees someone strong, independent, and confident. Older men are worldly, have experience, are financially stable, and have more experience in the bedroom. In other words, they know just how to satisfy her.
So is it a good idea to date younger women?
If you’re interested in a younger woman, be her friend first. Don’t act like all you want is to get into her pants. Be spontaneous, patient, and aim to please. Dress nicely (think suave) and wear cologne. Never make the first move with a younger woman. If something is going to happen between the two of you, it will be her choice. Most important of all, respect her.
When dating a younger woman, don’t keep anything a secret. If you’re divorced or have children, tell her right away. Women find it sexy when a man is empowered enough to discuss his feelings. It’s also important to treat her just like you’d treat a girlfriend of similar age. Don’t make her feel young and don’t assume you have to take care of her. Never use phrases that start with “When I was your age…” or “You weren’t even born when…”
Pay for her dinner and take her to nice events to show your financial stability. However, don’t make a habit of flashing cash and don’t wear obnoxiously big or expensive watches. Be aware of your tone. Do you sound supportive? Patronizing?
Establish boundaries about where the relationship is going. Does one of you consider this a fling? Is one looking for marriage? Make this clear early on in the relationship. Just because you’re dating someone young and hot, don’t expect her to be perfect. Twenty-somethings have their own problems just like older women.
If you like older women…
“Cougars” aren’t just looking for a hot, young playmate (well, some of them are). More often than not they are looking for a real relationship. But beware – older women won’t put up with immaturity. Follow these tips when dating an older woman:
- Be assertive
- Don’t use the word cougar
- Don’t call attention to the age gap
- Take things slow and really get to know her
Be aware that she may have children or want children – and be prepared for this conversation. Since she is more experienced with sex, she will know what she wants. Be prepared for her to tell you what to do and to relinquish a little bit of the control in the bedroom. When dating an older woman, it is less likely that she will be submissive. This relationship will be a partnership. Don’t make demands and expect them to be followed. If she’s in her late 40’s or older, be aware of possible illness and onset of menopause. Read up about things women do to look younger, like microdermabrasion, so you won’t be caught off guard. Finally, don’t try to sneak anything past her. She’s experienced with the ways of men and knows all of your tricks.